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Our Love Book

A story about the love you deserve

When you start to care for yourself, everything begins to change. You don't chase love. You draw it to you.Anna Bertoldi

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What this book is

Real love is possible — and it starts with you

This is the story of a Russian woman and an Austrian man who met on Tinder, lived a long distance between two countries, and married when Anna was 45.

And it's a gentle guide for you: about self-love, clarity about what you want, and how to stop settling for less. It's not too late. You're not too much. And you don't have to settle.

Our story

One swipe changed everything

2020

One swipe changed everything

Anna flew to another country for a Tinder date. The first time in person — the moment that split her life into 'before' and 'after'.

2021

Distance & choosing each other

Two countries, two languages, two worlds. Learning to understand each other through words, silence and presence — and holding on to what mattered.

2025

Married at 45

A wedding, a move to Vienna, a new quality of life and love. Exactly as she described it in her list — and exactly how it arrived.

Now

Love as a calm harbor

Real love as peace: being able to relax, be yourself, and know you're chosen again and again — every single day.

Four foundations

The principles this love rests on

You come first

Real love isn't possible without love for yourself. When you choose yourself, you stop settling for less.

Clarity of desire

Describe your partner in detail — character, values, how you feel beside him. A clear picture draws the right person.

Boundaries are love

Being able to say 'no' isn't harshness. It's self-respect — and it attracts people worthy of you.

Love is peace

You recognize your person by the ease — by the feeling of 'finally, home'.

What's inside (what we're building and what you'll get)

Nine chapters of one story

Our personal story woven together with practical guidance for you. Anna writes in Russian, Matthias in German — and from that, one story emerges: two viewpoints, and why it works.

Our story

Tinder, the flight, the first meeting, distance, the wedding.

Self-love

Self-love as the foundation. The turning point. Rituals.

III

Conscious choice

The wish list. Not settling. Online dating.

Russia meets Austria

Cultural differences as enrichment. Myths vs reality.

Love in everyday life

Morning rituals, conflict, love as a quiet harbor.

Love knows no age

Love after 40. The gifts of mature love. A word to you.

VII

A new life in Vienna

The move: giving up everything, gaining everything.

VIII

Practical advice

Three tips, red flags, Matthias's male perspective.

Gratitude

Letters to each other, a word to the reader, an invitation to write your own story.

Affirmations

Reread them on the days you doubt

I am worthy of real, deep love.
I choose myself — every day.
My love is calm, steady and joyful.
Love comes to me easily and naturally.
My age is my strength and my wisdom.

It's not too late

The numbers that quietly tell the truth

Love after 40 isn't the exception — it's a trend we just don't talk about enough.

Around 45% of people over 50 are open to new relationships.
Second marriages after 50 often show lower divorce rates.
A large share of international couples who meet online go on to marry.
Mature love after 40: people know themselves better, compromise less on values, build more honest relationships.

These figures were gathered in an early research pass and are being verified. They are not published as fact until each source is confirmed.

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Two voices

Two sides of one story

This isn't a monologue. Matthias tells his part in German — the male view, the Austrian context, what surprised him about a Russian woman and what made him sure.

Ich habe verstanden: Ruhe ist auch eine Form von Liebe.I understood: peace is also a form of love.Matthias

Anna and Matthias — their wedding day in Vienna

One last thing

Your love story isn't finished yet

Start with yourself. With the list. With clarity. And if you'd like to see my real list — and how one swipe became a wedding and a new life in Vienna — it's all in the book.

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